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There are a lot of Confucian ideas and practices that still saturate South Korean culture and daily life as traditional values. It is one of the old teachings of Confucianism  and reveals its inclination toward conservatism. Most Koreans tend to regard dating as a precursor to marriage. There is no dating agency but the market for marriage agencies are growing continuously.
Also, "Mat-sun", the blind date which is usually based on the premise of marriage, is held often among ages of late 20s to 30s. However, the majority still takes getting into a relationship seriously. Dating in Korea is also considered a necessary activity supported by society. College students in their sophomore to junior year who have not been in a relationship feel anxious that they are falling behind amongst their peers.
Most of them try "sogaeting", going out on a blind date, for the first time to get into a relationship. Dating is a duty that most people feel they must take on to not seem incompetent.
Where Are We Going? Dating has also been depicted to be an activity of fun and happiness. According to a survey by wedding consulting agency, men consider a physical relation as a catalyst of love, otherwise, women regard it as a confirmation of affection. Adding to it, both Marriages and courtship in Pakistan are influenced by traditional cultural practices similar to those elsewhere in the Indian subcontinent as well as Muslim norms and manners. Illegitimate relationships before marriage are considered a social taboo and social interaction between unmarried men and women is encouraged at a modest and healthy level.
Couples are usually wedded through either an arranged marriage or love marriage. Love marriages are those in which the individuals have chosen a partner whom they like by their own choice prior to marriage, and usually occur with the consent of parents and family. Arranged marriages on the other hand are marriages which are set and agreed by the families or guardians of the two individuals where the couple may not have met before. In either cases and in consistency with traditional marital practices, individuals who marry are persuaded to meet and talk to each other for some time before considering marrying so that they can check their compatibility.
The original SDU, which controversially promoted marriages among university graduate singles, no longer exists today. On 28 January , it was merged with SDS [Social Development Services], which just as controversially promoted marriages among non-graduate singles. The merged unit, SDN Social Development Network seeks to promote meaningful relationships, with marriage touted as a top life goal, among all resident [Singapore] singles within a conducive network environment of singles, relevant commercial and public entities.
One report suggested that in southern Taiwan , "traditional rules of courtship" still apply despite the influence of popular culture ; for example, men continue to take the initiative in forming relationships. What caused relationships to break up? In Britain, the term dating bears similarity to the American sense of the tentative exploratory part of a relationship.
If two people are going out together , it may mean they're dating but that their relationship has advanced to a relatively long-standing and sexual boyfriend-girlfriend relationship although they're not cohabiting.
Although Britons are familiar with the term dating, the rituals surrounding courtship are somewhat different from those commonly found in North America. Writer Kira Cochrane advises daters to "get out there and meet people" while noting a trend of temporary suspension of marriage until an individual reaches his or her thirties. She felt "clueless and unwanted", she wrote, and found advice books such as The Rules helpful.
Online dating safety in the UK is a concern for authorities and individuals. While analysts such as Harald Martenstein and others suggest that it is easier for persons to initiate contact in America, many Germans view the American dating habits as "unspontaneous", "ridiculous" and "rigid". Membership in voluntary associations is relatively high in German-speaking countries and these provided further chances for possible partners to meet. Strolling on Esplanades and Promenade walkways such as the one in Hamburg called the Jungfernstieg maidens way , have been another venue for introductions as early as the 19th century.
Analyst Geoffrey Gorer described dating as an American idiosyncrasy focusing on youth of college age and expressed in activities such as American proms. In contrast German speaking countries and the longstanding musical tradition there provided ample opportunity of persons of varying ages enjoying social dances, such as the Vienna Opera Ball and other occasions. The German term of Stelldichein as translated by Joachim Heinrich Campes is used to signify dating when the age of consent to marriage was relatively high.
German traditions to signify lovers who met in hiding were described with terms like Fensterln windowing or Kiltgang dawn stroll used in Bavaria and Switzerland. Today, most German couples in long-term relationships get to know each other through mutual friends, at work or while going out at night; the first few months of dating often involve sexual intercourse, but are still rather casual and do not imply a serious wish to get married.
Italians maintain a conservative approach to dating. Also, inviting friends or relatives during a date is not uncommon. More modern approaches such as blind dates, speed dating and dating websites are not as popular as abroad, and are not considered very effective by the majority of the population.
However, social network members outnumber the European average,  and they may use Facebook for dating purposes too. One report suggested Spanish women were the "greatest flirts", based on an unofficial study by a dating website which ranked countries based on initiations of contact. In North Africa like in many parts of the Middle East, sex without marriage is considered unacceptable. Dating in North Africa is predominantly done under family supervision, usually in a public place.
People of different sexes are not allowed to "mix freely" in public. Clerics run officially sanctioned internet dating agencies with strict rules. In Israel, in the secular community, dating is very common amongst both heterosexual and homosexual couples.
However, because of the religious community, there are some religious exceptions to the dating process. In the Haredi and Chasidic communities Ultra-Orthodox Judaism most couples are paired through a matchmaker.
In this arranged marriage system, young adults meet a couple times under the supervision of their parents, and after they meet, the two are asked whether they will agree to be married. Furthermore, in terms of marriage , because the state religion is essentially Orthodox-Judaism, Conservative and Reform Liberal denominations of Judaism Jews cannot get married through a Conservative or Reform Rabbi without the approval of the State's Orthodox Head Rabbi.
There are similar problems in Israel for people of different denominations of other religions as well. Essentially, if you live in Israel, and the head of your religion doesn't want you to get married, you can't get religiously married. Because people of two different religions or people of the same sex cannot get married in Israel, people in these situations oftentimes have to go overseas to get married since Israel does recognize overseas marriages.
One report suggests the Lebanese dating game is hampered by "the weight of family demands upon individual choice" and that there were difficulties, particularly for people seeking to marry across religious lines, such as a Christian seeking to marry a Muslim. The Saudi Gazette quoted a Wikipedia article on domestic violence , suggesting it was an issue for Saudis, including abusive behavior while dating by one or both partners.
In many cultures around the world, dating is a serious family matter, which is based on its culture and social values. Parents in said cultures believe in arranged marriage, or at least make sure that their children get married at a certain age.
However, in the United States, independency plays an important role in how singles value and date others. In America, dating is mostly a personal decision rather than based on the influence of parents. Middle class tend to prioritize other things that are more important to them, such as get a college degree, a job, and then date their future spouse to settle down.
Before the internet era, some Americans would meet their prospective husband or wife in college, through friends, at work, etc. But now is very popular that singles are trying to meet people on websites and from cell phone applications. Dating people online can create other social issues.
For example, some individuals might get in the illusion that there are so many singles looking for your mate, therefore some can get into a bad habit of constantly meet new people, but do not want to get in a meaningful relationship and they may spend years dating looking for a perfect mate when in reality that does not exist. Meeting people from social sites might isolate us even more due to lack of communication face to face with friends and interact with new people on public places.
One report suggested the United States as well as other western-oriented countries were different from the rest of the world because "love is the reason for mating," as opposed to marriages being arranged to cement economic and class ties between families and promote political stability. British writer Kira Cochrane, after moving to the U. By waiting and waiting and waiting to commit to someone, our capacity for love shrinks and withers.
This doesn't mean that women or men should marry the first reasonable person to come along, or someone with whom they are not in love. But we should, at a much earlier age than we do now, take a serious attitude toward dating and begin preparing ourselves to settle down. For it's in the act of taking up the roles we've been taught to avoid or postpone——wife, husband, mother, father——that we build our identities, expand our lives, and achieve the fullness of character we desire.
Journalist Emily Witt in wrote that while "social mores had changed to accept a wider range of sexual practices", there was still much "loneliness and anxiety".
There is evidence that couples differ in the pace and timing with which they initiate sex in their relationships. Teenagers and college-aged students tend to avoid the more formal activity of dating, and prefer casual no-strings-attached experiments sometimes described as hookups. It permits young women to "go out and fit into the social scene, get attention from young men, and learn about sexuality", according to one report by sociologists.
Muslims living in the United States can choose whether to use traditional Islamic methods, or date American-style; Muslims choosing to stick to Islamic tradition can "only marry another Muslim", according to one Malaysian account. Mosques have been known to try to bring people together——one in California has a dating service for Muslims.
In Australia, men typically ask out women for dates by text messaging. In Brazil there's a longer time interval before children move out of the house, which affects dating. A report in Psychology Today found that homosexual men were attracted to men in their late teens and early twenties and didn't care much about the status of a prospective partner; rather, physical attractiveness was the key.
In India , transgender individuals and eunuchs have used Internet dating to help them find partners, but there continue to be strong societal pressures which marginalize these groups. People can meet other people on their own or the get-together can be arranged by someone else.
Matchmaking is an art based entirely on hunches, since it is impossible to predict with certainty whether two people will like each other or not. Friends remain an extremely common way for people to meet  However, the Internet promises to overtake friends in the future, if present trends continue. In The Guardian , British writer Hannah Pool was cynical about being set up on a blind date; she was told "basically he's you but in a male form" by the mutual friend.
Parents, via their contacts with associates or neighbors or friends, can introduce their children to each other.
In India , parents often place matrimonial ads in newspapers or online, and may post the resumes of the prospective bride or groom. Dating systems can be systematic and organized ways to improve matchmaking by using rules or technology.
The meeting can be in-person or live as well as separated by time or space such as by telephone or email or chat-based. The purpose of the meeting is for the two persons to decide whether to go on a date in the future. Speed dating is a fast and comfortable way to meet people. It helps enlarge my social contacts.
I don't care if I can't find a girlfriend there. I just want to try my luck, and if she is there, then that will be a big bonus. Very attractive translates as big-headed Average build means a bit paunchy The picture is always taken from the best, most flattering angle Black and white photos mean I am pretentious or I've something to hide Anyone who writes in text speak or says I heart instead of I like should be avoided Ditto for people whose interests include feet.
The deception got worse. When he met his date who he had befriended online who he dubbed Facebook Guy for the first time, he wrote:. Facebook guy arrived on time. Facially, he looked the same as his picture.
And his arms were as "worked out" as he promised. But he was lacking in the leg department. Facebook Guy had failed to mention that he had no legs. Computer dating systems of the later 20th century, especially popular in the s and s, before the rise of sophisticated phone and computer systems, gave customers forms that they filled out with important tolerances and preferences, which were "matched by computer" to determine "compatibility" of the two customers.
The history of dating systems is closely tied to the history of technologies that support them, although a statistics-based dating service that used data from forms filled out by customers opened in Newark, New Jersey in Patterson's business model was not fully legal, however.
He was charged with fraud on several occasions for selling lists of the women who signed up for his service to men who were looking for prostitutes. Online dating services are becoming increasingly prevalent worldwide. They charge a fee to enable a user to post a profile of himself or herself, perhaps using video or still images as well as descriptive data and personal preferences for dating, such as age range, hobbies, and so forth.
However new entrants continue to emerge. An earlier report suggested that online dating businesses were thriving financially, with growth in members, service offerings, membership fees and with many users renewing their accounts, although the overall share of Internet traffic using online dating services in the U.
Pew Research , based on a survey of 3, adults, estimated that three million Americans had entered into long-term relationships or marriage as a result of meeting on a dating web site. Internet "QQ" chat rooms. This type of dating approach, cheaper than traditional websites and agencies, is gaining ground in China.
Mystery Date is a board game from the Milton Bradley Company , originally released in and reissued in , , and in , whose object is to be ready for a date by acquiring three matching color-coded cards to assemble an outfit. The outfit must then match the outfit of the date at the "mystery door". If the player's outfit does not match the date behind the door, the door is closed and play continues. The game has been mentioned, featured, or parodied in several popular films and television shows.
Numerous television reality and game shows , past and current, address dating. These are described more fully here and in the related article on " reality game shows " that often include or motivate romantic episodes between players.
Another category of dating-oriented reality TV shows involves matchmaking , such as Millionaire Matchmaker and Tough Love.
Dating can happen for people in most age groups with the possible exception of young children. Teenagers and tweens have been described as dating; according to the CDC , three-quarters of eighth and ninth graders in the United States described themselves as "dating", although it is unclear what is exactly meant by this term.
Young persons are exposed to many in their high schools or secondary schools or college or universities. People over thirty, lacking the recency of a college experience, have better luck online finding partners.
While people tend to date others close to their own age, it's possible for older men to date younger women. In many countries, the older-man-younger-woman arrangement is seen as permissible, sometimes with benefits. It's looked on more positively in the U. Research shows that successful men are, on average, older than their spouses by 12 years; exceptional men, by 17 years; and Nobel laureates, well, they can be 54 years older than their mates.
Why date now when your ideal wives are still in kindergarten! A notable example of the older-woman-younger-man is Demi Moore pairing with years-her-junior Ashton Kutcher.
Older women in such relations have recently been described as "cougars", and formerly such relationships were often kept secret or discreet, but there is a report that such relationships are becoming more accepted and increasing.
Since divorce is increasing in many areas, sometimes celebrated with " divorce parties ",  there is dating advice for the freshly divorced as well, which includes not talking about your ex or your divorce, but focusing on "activities that bring joy to your life.
From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia. This article is about the form of courtship. For other uses, see Dating disambiguation. For other uses, see Double date disambiguation.
Cicisbeo Concubinage Courtesan Mistress. Breakup Separation Annulment Divorce Widowhood. Archived from the original on Forbidding experimental and serial courtship and sanctioning only arranged matches is partly a means of guarding the chastity of young people and partly a matter of furthering family interests The Neurological Origins of Individuality, 2nd edition".
Gender and Agency in the Web-based Personals". Electronic Journal of Sociology. No Dating, No Relationships". The New York Times. What our grandmothers told us about playing hard to get is true. Internet dating on the rise". Jacobson February 7, More than 60 years later, would that special girl remember me? After the movie, Finney and I took Helen home to her mother, The problem with most dating rules, They make a game and a chore out of something that should be natural and fun and overwhelming.
If you are rejected or ignored, remember that it is not about you. Don't focus on one person Using the Internet as a means of connecting to others. Online or off, couples still have to click". New Berkeley research shows that online daters like each other more before they actually meet in person—it's that first face-to-face where things slide downhill, and average daters report disappointment across the board, let down on everything from looks to personality.
From traditional to cutting-edge, Carlene Thomas-Bailey introduces a handful of ways to meet your match". Blind dates, classified ads, dating websites, hobbies, holidays, office romance, social networking, speed dating In fact, the smarter you are, the more clueless you will be, and the more problems you're going to have in your dating life. Here were smart, funny, good-looking guys surrounded by single women who were dying to be asked out — and not a whole lot was happening.
Lee February 2, Keep it simple by going for coffee or after-work drinks. A new book postulates that women who go through 34 dates should find true love around number To believe love is just a numbers game would leave the bravest of us questioning, why even play?
Disappointment can create discouragement affecting other areas of our lives. Too many one-off dates that go nowhere can leave the best of us ready to hang up the little black dress in exchange for a pair of pjs and a pint of you know what. First of all, my recommendation is to be ready and to be authentic. The most appealing kind of email to send is friendly, funny and flattering, Don't write a tome or reveal too much, and don't suggest meeting up right away.
There is, however, an unwritten rule in the internet dating world that it is acceptable to ignore mail from people who don't interest you. A no-reply policy is often the result of experience. Donovan says he has collected information on more than businesses worldwide that offer dating coach services -- with almost of those operating in the U.
Americans who are seeking romance use the internet to help them in their search, but there is still widespread public concern about the safety of online dating".
The copulatory gaze, looking lengthily at a new possible partner, People who met 20, 25 or 30 years ago were more likely to mention co-workers," he says, and people who met in the past 10 years "were less likely to mention co-workers. The people you interact with most are your coworkers, but office dating is far from ideal. A bad date will lead to workplace awkwardness, at the very least. Online Dating by the Numbers".
In the world of online dating, women seek a partner of their age or older who has a high-paying job or has money. And he must be well-educated. The problem is that men usually have one universal definition of what is attractive and you need to fit that in order to be considered hot , far more than women do, A study by psychology researchers Smith February 8, Why Happiness Eludes the Modern Woman excerpts ".
Or as Bill Maher more crudely but usefully summed it up Men want women to shut up. Retrieved February 29, How to recognize the good from the bad and move on".
I find the majority of time, it's because of a fear of intimacy," said relationship therapist Laura Berman. For many of us, the requisite vulnerability and exposure that comes from being really intimate with someone in a committed sense is kind of threatening. I knew it even before the publication of "The Rules," a dating bible that encouraged women to return to prefeminist mind games by playing hard to get The Rules centres on the premise that "men are born to respond to challenge. Take away challenge and their interest wanes", and thus followers are instructed to suppress their natural instincts and continue as follows: Instead, he seemed to assume it was because I was busy, popular, and had better things to do.
Which seemed to make him keener. When we went on dates, I would always be the one to leave. To my astonishment, he often took that as a cue to ask me out again. Today, women have gone back to hunting their quarry — in person and in cyberspace — with elaborate schemes designed to allow the deluded creatures to think they are the hunters.
Copage June 6, Centers for Disease Control. Dating violence is a type of intimate partner violence Lutz told the boys that among high school girls surveyed from the ages of 14 to 18, about 20 percent reported that they had been hit, slapped, shoved or forced into sexual activity by a dating partner.
Wikipedia tells us that domestic violence To begin with, it is important that someone knows where you are. Can apps and algorithms lead to true love? Yet some researchers say dating companies' matchmaking algorithms are no better than Chance for providing suitable partners. At the same time, critics worry that the abundance of prospective dates available online is undermining relationships Courtship may be completely left out in case of arranged marriages where the couple doesn't meet before the wedding.
Most Chinese university women can agree on one thing: Its just the wait that is hard sometimes. Please pray for me. And if his answers is no? Fix up yourself, write a good not overly religious profile and you should meet plenty of people. Read other profiles and you will see what is wrong with yours. Faith without works is dead. Go to church events, gatherings, etc.
I used Christian Mingle several years ago. After a few conversations, I decided to talk on the phone. After he dropped the f-bomb twice on the phone, I cancelled my membership. CM blocked my access without hearing my side of the story. The good thing I have saved all the emails and texts to prove my innocence. Some people really need help. The website should have talked with you about the situation.
It is strange how so many people jump to the conclusion that the woman must be telling the truth. Joseph, I can honestly tell you that although I would love to meet a nice woman, get married and have children, it seems as though God wants me celibate.
I am 48 years old and have never been married with no children. No matter what anybody believes, it is in the Holy Bible that is years old historical document New Testament and it cannot be changed. If anyone wants to be a queer, they need to abandon all religions. But in order to not complicate my life, I have just accepted this lifestyle. Jesus is just about ready to come back very VERY soon now anyway, and this is a non issue for me now I guess. I am sorry this happened to you.
And where might that be listed that one must give up religion if any sort? At some point, we will have to acknowledge that for Christians, homosexuality is a sin. All Christians sin but through repentance, they can and will be redeemed. This goes not only for homosexuality but for any pet sin that the sinner refuses to give up — greed, dishonesty, envy, disrespecting ones parents, failure to keep the sabbath, creating idols.
Anything that you rank as more important than God — that you would feel is more important than God, including btw sexual desires, relationships, work, money, entertainment, etc. God is a very jealous God. He wants us to commit our lives to Him first and all the rest will follow.
He actually promises an abundant life and many have experienced it. You just have to read it and believe it for yourself. Get your facts right.
There is no christian who is gay because other wise they wold want to be with the opposite sex. Ignorance is bliss as they say. He stayed his belief thst homosexuality and true Christianity are incompatible. Please read the rest where God talks about sin and those who refuse the calling of the Holy Spirit.
Believe it or not, it is ok to call right right and wrong wrong. In his post, Where did Joseph mention anything about anyone being gay????? What did I miss? Where did all that come from? George, I was once a drug addict and an alcoholic, I had plenty of women, but when I got saved, I struggled to find a Christian woman for several years. I tried dating sites, and met a few, but none that were geographically compatible as I had two young children.
All the single women in my church were way too young literally teens, or way too old, 50 plus, I was around Those that did would live a great distance away. Focus on spiritual compatibility and the rest will work out. I can totally relate to what you are saying. Needless to say, it caused an uproar at the university and rippled through the denomination.
Arguments from both sides flew, each side completely convicted of their beliefs. One self identified gay person wrote a comment saying how difficult it was for him in church, watching other couples able to express their love and affirm their relationships while he was denied the same expression.
At that moment it hit me like a lightening bolt. I responded to the commenter, letting him know that more than half the church experiences those same feelings. There are more single heterosexual women and men in church, desirous of a loving and committed relationship than perhaps there are married couples. Gays are not alone in feeling denied and lonely.
More than the question of homosexuality, for the believer, the question, I believe, is one of singleness. And whether the church as an entity or corporate body was properly servicing its single members — or if single-hood is viewed in the church as a curse, evidence of sin or some other pariah-like condition, much like how the world views it, i.
I agree that God values loving relationships and that they are the basis of the family, children and healthy societies. I agree also that God did not intend for man to be alone. But I am beginning to feel, like you, that God did intend for some of us, perhaps a good portion of us, to remain single. Being single does not equate to being alone. At times, the idea of never experiencing life with a a personal and devoted partner is a depressing thought.
And it is definitely harder, from all aspects, emotionally, financially, physically. I chose instead to focus on building my relationship with Jesus — on seeking to learn and fulfill his mission and purpose for my life. He says in his Word, ask and it shall be given unto you.
Seek and ye shall find. Would I still love to meet my Prince Charming? Not saying its easy. But I do spend a lot of time talking to Jesus about it, asking for comfort, strength and understanding. It is part of my sacrifice of self and my being grafted into the Vine. There is no greater love I can experience. It eclipses all others and so it will be good enough for me — especially if I keep my eyes on Him.
If I look to the side, if I do like Peter did when walking on the water, I will sink. I wish you all the best brother and hope that we will meet one day in the earth made new so I can thank you personally for your simple, straightforward and honest testimony.
It has given me great encouragement and I bet others as well. I am not some freak. I pray that God will grant you the desires of your heart and pry that God will continue to bless you.
I have been a single mother for 38 yrs. And that fact is, am I happy within my life? No I am not. As a mother, yes. As a woman no. As a women I feel lonely and alone.
She is hurting, lonely and alone and needs the comfort of a husband. I know what it is to be a single parent, having to bring up the children and be mother and father, and much more besides, without assistance, encouragement, respite or recognition. I pay you would release her husband to her and give her rest.
Send a man who will know you will, so that she has no need to second guess his faith and can trust him to be her head. Help her right now in her time of trouble! Send people to lift her hands and protect her back as she fights in your front line. Help her to continue to worship you and trust you and provide for her as she walks by faith, in your mighty name!
George, I was just browsing and read your response. I just know that we have to keep the faith and believe that one day the Lord will bless us with the right person. Until then I keep busy with his work. And just live life to the fullest. He will never leave you nor forsake you George. He will be with you even to the ends of the earth. I do not support the gay lifestyle but to say that gays cannot accept Jesus or practice Christianity is very wrong.
Becoming a Christian does not mean you stop sinning magically. Homosexuality is simply another sin, like gossip, hate, glutony… We are all Imperfect sinners that have fallen short of the glory of God. Jesus loves the gay man or woman in spite of their sin. He longs for their hearts just as much as yours. Yes, homosexuality breaks his heart and living in sin can prevent you from having a strong relationship with God, but you should not give the impression that Gays cannot know or love God or call themselves followers of Christ.
If you are really interested in a person weight would not matter. Unfortunately, that happens to both men and women on any internet dating site. You have to be very, very cautious on any dating site. I truly hope this woman was not able to do any damage to you or your name.
Further more, I hope she is not on the website or any others and has done the same to other men or worse with false accusations because of her own insecurities and not being able to love herself first before trying to be in a relationship with another. I hope you have been able to move forward and have found the relationship with the person you were looking for and that you were both equally yoked and blessed.
Thank you for sharing. I was reading the comments for CM to see if I wanted to sign up. A lot of pros and cons. My husband passed away 8 years ago suddenly at 46, I was Seeing your comment really shook me as I have seen comments like yours across other sites.
All my best to you and anyone else man or woman who has gone through this. Sundi, why did you base everything on the conversation with one foul-mouthed man? I did the free browsing thing on there today and I found that many men have strict age criteria like not even a woman one year older than him is OK.
I also saw a man saying a woman who drinks heavily is ok for him. Honey it is not you. Men want to make their own babies. When you are past it….. I am so angry for what is happening. As young a woman. I tell men straight up to date the lovely ladies their own age. With all due respect, why were you browsing for men 9 years your junior, while chastising them for wanting a woman 9 years their junior? I was pressured by friends to try Christian mingle, so I obliged.
The matches I received were so far from what I was looking for… but the fact that they were Christian meant they were perfect for me, apparently.
In addition, there are simply less people on the site, which means your matches run out a lot more quickly than eH or Match. So, there are my two cents. Probably exactly two cents, actually. Enjoyed your two cents. It also depends on your location.
I have triad e-harmony and found that when you are placing infor of yourself they insert things on their own and their is no where to add additional information. The window slides to the next page before you are finished and I did not like that. Not only that there are many scams on christian mingle and I heard some of the men where married or it was advertise from a porn site. I emailed them to tell them so.
Some of them read like a script written that is just popped off as an email. Any that I did respond to never responded back after their first emile or IM to me. The person has never responded back to me after I was up and running with email and IM access. I am not a paranoid person but this makes me suspicious. I received a prompt that I had email and when I checked in nothing was there and still has not shown up.
If I was skeptical of these singles sites before I am even more convinced they are really not in the best interest of the those that sign on. I am seriously considering asking for a refund. I just read over the review written here and then read some of the comments written below. I probably looked at hundreds of profiles…occasionally made comments and sent emails and they also came in quite often….
I was on Christian Mingle for about 8 months and met men. ALL were amazing people, treated me like gold and I am still friends with at least 4 of them and even occasionally text and face book each other…. All of us are pursuing serious relationships at this point.
TALK on the phone within a couple days if you think it might be a match and meet within a week, if possible. Kinda easy to set yourself up for a hurt this way. I ultimately met a wonderful Christian guy on Plenty of Fish…I was ironically removing my profile from this site when I decided to just look through a few profiles before I deleted my profile.
The third person I viewed lived with in an hour and a half and I loved how well written his profile was. I wrote him a one liner complimenting him on his profile and didn;t even sign my name. To me…it was a God Thing! I would also say that all communication needs to feel right. You should love reading what they write, you should get a warm feeling when you hear their voice and you should feel comfortable when you meet them…. I learned a lot while dating online. Robin, you have given me some hope.
I will be 43 next month and I am nervous about dating. I have waited until my daughter is 18 yrs. I am like really. I am an old fashion girl. I like to be pursued. I will try online dating. I love spreading the good news. When I stated anybody want to talk about the bible only about 2 replied. People were talking about gays being gays, more girls for them because of gays. Trust me you do not need to find someone on a dating site. Do it the old fashion way and meet people. Do not fear what someone will say to you.
So what if you get a rejection? God will put you with somebody. Ask and it will be given to you. Why are God and technology always combating? I love this comment you made. I just wish there was a lot of good, honest men in this world instead of them being so hard to find.
Yeh, I found that just because they are on the Christian site that does not mean they are Christian. One guy did not like my voice. How obserd is that! I found that their is age discriniation also. I am 59 and over that apparently age requirements. I only found on guy that I could say he was a Cristian. Most of the guys wanted to give their personal e-mail and for you to email them their , did not want an older women, did not want to invest in the time to see you , asked for obsene picutes, Those are not qualities of a Christian.
Meeting someone in church is also a challenge. I attend church but if you are not attracted to the person the members want to fix you up with you are run out of the church. What is the answer. Would like to meet someone but find it inpossible. Im not too sure if i believe in dating online ive seen too many people get messed over on the show catfish. Im married but my husband doesnt love me anymore he says he knows im a great wife but he just struggles with things mentally and just wants to move on.
It breaks my heart but i know God will send me a good man that truly loves and appreciates me. I think it depends on the person some people are allowed to have options so to speak while others have to Wait for the one. I just expect to be loved and cherished and respected. I hear and feel you there my dear sister! And that is those I met in church or on dating sites and Redcastle of their ages! But good men and women in the faith DO exist so please do not become desperate and seeks for less that Gods purpose!
I just cancelled my free membership with CM for a few reasons, some based in the actual product. That issue aside, I think my other issues are likely not limited to CM but maybe more obvious on their site.
Makes me wonder what has happened to my generation when their attempt to find a mate begins with lol, gud or kool. I had trouble joining and they want my bank statement, credit card statement etc. This is what they sent me by email: I apologize for the confusion. Your original transaction was automatically voided because it was flagged as possibly fraudulent. We canceled the transaction to protect you in case the account number was being used without your consent.
The charge will completely drop from your statement within the next business days. If you would still like to be a member of ChristianMingle you can fax or scan and attach the following:. A copy a recent, institution issued statement such as a bank, credit card or utility bill verifying the billing information entered.
Once these documents have been received, reviewed and verified, we would be happy to activate you membership again.
Please note, you can block out account numbers, transactions and balances listed on the statement. If you are scanning the documents, please reply to this message and add the file as an attachment. If you are faxing, our number is: What do you think?
Would you send them all of your personal information. I was about to join, but, after reading some comments, I decided not too. Thank you all and may God bless you in everything you all do!!!! I used Christian Mingle and really dislike it. In my opinion it was a waste of money. When you fill out your profile, you list your preferences. What you get it is lots of matches based only on your preferences. I should have been able to turn off that option when I first signed up.
And of course they refuse to give refunds. They do nothing to protect their subscribers from scams or worse. One of their little buttons even lets you ask for their email. This may supposedly be a Christian dating site, but the business is definitely not Christian.
I feel if a site is trying to cater to many different people nationwide, it would do more to reach out to everyone. Also, I like the attachment site believe. Not many authentic profiles to choose from especially in your local radius and after you browse the site their pricing format seems not worth it.
Better chances off line. Christian Mingle may try and be legitimate but I personally know of a married man who claimed he was divorced and was searching for someone. This fellow has and will have an addictive personality all his life, has no friends and lies and cheats continually. I want to warn the women on this site to be cautious, be aware of all those they meet on here and always keep their eyes open.
Yes, he may be looking for a Christian but if his wife took 8 yeara to find this out then imagine how he can fool women. Looks are deceiving and the lying unbearable. I can say I was once a friend of this man and he will never find better. They have 2 children. She got several answers from young adult Christians and she told her son that she wanted for him to know that there were more choices out there!
So, does anyone out there have a positive story about online dating?? I was tempted to try Christian mingle on the advice of a guy friend, but that is so out of my area of expertise. I have never dated someone i have met online, or put myself on a website like that. I am a devout Christian, and i think that is how sites like this draw people in gain users, by tacking the word Christian on it. I am still praying and relying on God to steer me in the right path. I hear you, sister. This site should be a portal through which all Christians go when they want to sign up for an online dating service.
They have to read it first. They have passed the test. It is too bad that you dismiss online sayin merely because you have never done it before, could be an indicator as to why you are single or were single. As to whether there are success stories from dating sites I would say of course!
There are ratio of success to failure is probably equal from a real life attempt and an online one! Lori, you should use the same expertise as you would if you met someone in person. Starting off with seeing a full body picture of them, and well as showing yours. Depending on what your interested in first. His look or conversation.. Anywho, you go from there.. I definitely do not recommend this service. It is very difficult to get in touche with anyone directly. No phone number on their site.
MY membership was renewed without my knowledge. I disputed it with American Express and they put a hold on the charge. In the mean time Christian Mingles blocked me from using the site, stopped sending daily matches, etc.
When American Express went ahead and allowed the charge, I called them to explain that I had been blocked out of the website for one month.
They gave me a contact number at Chrisitian Mingles. I called and explained that since I had not been able to get into the site for one month, they should credit my account or give me an extra month to make up for it.
They were rigid, unsympathetic, and rude, and would not do anything. In the mean time I still cannot get into their site, am getting no emails, but am being charged. How can they claim to be Christian? I am only one who uses it. Fight back if you experience this, you have rights! They should be called Swingle. That explains why I met pornography and sex addicts on Christian Mingle because their ad pops up beside Porn sites.
I am a big fan of Christian Mingle. I live in a small town in a state with a small population. There is nothing here for single adults except the bar scene. I signed up for Plenty of Fish because I knew a couple now married who met that way. I was literally flooded with messages from men ranging from 27 to 76 though I specified my age and a preference.
It was so overwhelming that I cancelled after less than a week. I like the communication options of Christian Mingle. It takes a bit of courage for a man to register on a site with Christian in the name when there are so many others. From my experience, the yuck factor is less with Christian Mingle. I did not enjoy my experience on ChristianMingle,at all!
So many people calling themselves Christian,have no clue what a Christian is. Trying to meet true, born-again, Jesus only, King James only,praying, Bible studying, church faithful, sisters in Christ, will not likely happen in a worldly-polluted, online dating site like ChristianMingle! It can be a real blow to the self-esteem to not hear back from guys you emailed for a while. Are there any good Christian guys out there online? Guard your heart, and pick up your date carefully.
I will just take it as a learning experiences. I cannot recommend Christian Mingle. The profiles are fake. The photos are fake. And the language in the emails sounds foreign, as if English were their second language.
I contacted a Sheriff in Santa Cruz about one person with an obviously fake address. If I can do such obvious and easy detective work, surely Christian Mingle can. Someone is going to get hurt some day.
I should be able to feel reasonably safe on a Christian site. They should spend less money on advertising and more money on screening their posts. The name is just a name.. You should do detective. This sin has destroyed my family leaving over one million dollars in unmitigated damage. This website introduced my mother in law to the perp within minutes.
This vanity has destroyed many lives. If you sign up, you are a sinner. The wages of this sin is indescribable. Christian mingle is a cold site. The people on it are rude and clickish. The site seems to be very cold. The bad thing is when you pay for the service your stuck with it for six months!!! The layout of the site seems to be a cookie-cutter, online-dating site, more interested in making money than actually serving the Christian population in finding compatible matches.
I could understand not being able to send but you should be able to read them. They decided where to crop my photo for a thumbnail, not scaled but cropped, and completely eliminated the favorite part of the photo I wanted people to see at a glance. If it was all automated I might understand it but the cropping was not to the center of the photo.
After not being able to read emails that were sent to me the photo manipulation just screamed money-making rather than a service that actually cared about people. If they are going to brand themselves as Christian they should at least try to find out what it means to be a Christian and how they should behave as matchmakers. Anyway, I signed up in and had a scam artist woman complain about me after I told her she was just that, a scam artist, for trying to get me to send money.
Then later I actually found someone on CM in , from Australia, and we dated for two years. She married a fellow Australian, but we remain close friends. She suggested I try CM again, and I could not log in nor make a new profile.
But then, think — CM is part of Spark Networks, which has dating sites for all manner of people, from Mormons to lots of secular sites. By no means are they Christian only. I was massively disappointed with Christian Mingle. A few of the guys that I did find attractive were scammers and there were very few I did find attractive, not being snooty just need to have the chemistry, inside and out.
They selected me, in one case I selected one. They all were highly excited and complimentary of me, wanted my email, some my phone. I had a dialogue on email with them and the next day they disappeared, profile completely gone. I hoped I would get a feel for what it is like to be single, especially at my age, these guys led me to think ok, not all bad, there are some people out there for me, not even necessarily them, but some guys I could want to at least learn a little about.
Maybe 3 good and 5 or more turned out to be scams as I described. My name is jennifer, from usa I never believed in love spells or magic until i met this spell caster once when i went to Africa in February this year on a business summit. I really loved him, but his mother was against us and he had no good paying job. So when i met this spell caster, i told him what happened and explained the situation of things to him.
At first i was undecided, skeptical and doubtful, but i just gave it a try. And in 7 days when i returned to usa, my boyfriend now husband called me by himself and came to me apologizing that everything had been settled with his mom and family and he got a new job interview so we should get married.
Well we are happily married now and we are expecting our little kid, and my husband also got the new job and our lives became much better. His email is maduraitemple yahoo. What a stupid company, scaring off customers. OK, I have to be a little honest and harsh here.
I still have 10 pages of emails. Some people clearly do not even take two minutes to mention their likes, hobbies, or worse, GOD. If you have good pictures, a good profile, a discerning eye then you will find someone. Oh, and you will want to look even across the US.
Many profiles are really sparse. And they get upset about it when they are questioned? I really got frustrated with it and stopped my subscription after only 2 months. Since I signed up for Christian Mingles, I was introduced to a felon, someone who only wanted a one night stand and a scan artist trying to take my money.
All I can do is pray for those who are trying to use those who are looking for a God loving mate and are getting scammed in return. Pray that God will touch their hearts and show them convictions of their actions.
I guess if you want some amusement and a good laugh Christian Mingle is a good comedy spot. I met my husband on Christian Mingle. I have friends who have met their husbands on match and eharmony. I wanted to meet a man who was a God fearing man. I signed up for the 6 month memvership and cancelled after meeting my husband during my 3rd month of membership. It would have been nice if there was a way to transfer any unused portion to someone since there are no refunds. Also I never used or looked at the prayer walls or chat rooms.
When did that become OK? You should change your review. They have horrible customer service. There are few active, compatible matches in my area. I now think that online dating in general is a waste of time and money. The guys that I met on here are only looking for sex and most of them are broke losers that still live with their parents.
I went on one date with a guy that was a nightmare, he was 2 hrs late and did not apologize and made me pay for half of the bill. Complete waste of time! How many guys have you met offline that was looking for the same thing? But he should at least offer to pay the bill.
I would go dutch on a first date though. It sets a bar: Your time is worth more than three bucks. Christian Mingle is there for con men and rip off artist and sexual deviants they must be helping the third world country Ghana Africa because that seems to bewhere the scams originate.
My account was compromised twice in a very short time. Their answer to my complaint was to close my account. I demanded a refund, but they would only refund the amount of the unused time left on my subscription.
I asked to speak with a manager, but was never called back. I lost dozens of emails and contacts. I am filing a complaints with the Attorneys General in Arizona and California, as well as filing complaints with the BBB in those states.
I would recommend staying away from Christian Mingle. The quality of black men was bad. Being black women, we have the slimmest pickings of all people. Also, what do others think about how race plays into it. I am a single Black woman as well — I have been on EH for over one year with a similar experience to you.
Limited choices and even worse — limited in who chooses to communicate with you. I am not interested in finding a mate. This is the only avenue I could find to bring something to your attention regarding your TV commercial. The couple on the commercial state that they were married in and that their baby was born the following April.
My feeling is that they should be more specific as to what month they were married in in , because if the month was Jan, Feb or Mar , then their baby would have been born in Apr, This would then mean they were pregnant with their baby when they got married. I do not recommend at all. Quality of people is not good. Site doesnt work well. They are only interested in money.
When did God go into the match making business? Does God get the 30 bucks a month CM charges. What a joke, and people fall for it. Why not just go to church? I say the same thing in church.. Did God tell man to charge for preaching the word? Does God get the money from the church? Well, I tried both eHarmony and Christian Mingle. No common ground whatsoever. Not that lonely or desperate. I agree with you — sort of! They are just appealing to demographics and preying on those of us who are looking to find a partner who shares our faith journey.
Now, granted, I did not remove my profile as I recommend all do who have decided they are done with a paid site and I just received a notice that my credit card was billed for auto renewal. I did not choose auto-renewal at anytime, but apparently this is the default, and the information is buried so deep in the site who knew.
So I figure I want to make this investment worth something and am spreading the word. Nah, there is a way to find the Christian guys. I know how to find them. Got a few great christian friends who found their spouses. You have to know how to write who you are. I have only been a member for a week. So many fake profiles and emails. I have gotten dozens of emails and every one of them has been from a scammer.
Fortunately they are stupid in how they present themselves and easy to spot. I even had one email where the profile was that of a female but the email presented herself as a male and then slipped up at the end.
I have reported most of them but I would think that CM could do some controlling themselves. Maybe they could set a limit on how many emails a day can be sent from one profile. Fakes would not be interested if they could only contact a few people a day but someone really looking for a match would not have an issue with that.
Well I am locked in for 6 months so maybe it will get better. I have used Christian Mingle and other dating sites. I am not impressed! The matching system does not take your preferences into consideration. My matches were usually more than an hour away from me, or the wrong ethnicity. I chose a Christian dating site hoping for more men with depth.. Last of all, their customer service has a lot to be desired. I had decided not to renew my membership and had sent a message to such affect.
In the meantime, I received two messages and responded to them that I would no longer be on the site. I thought I was just being polite. But NOPE…they leave your account open apparently, so if you respond, they can then bump up the fee and rebill you.
I just thought I was being polite. I signed up for Christina mingle a few days ago. So it takes me the few days to get my site the way I like it with description, pictures, etc. I tried Christian Mingle out of boredom. I am out of and over a bad marriage. I know from the pain of a really bad marriage to wait for God. I had this girl contact me. She gave me some run around story about how much she liked me. But was out the country with a sick mother.
As soon as she was back she wanted to meet me. So I let it play out and sure enough she, maybe a she, asked for I dropped the whole thing like a rock.
I am not trying to be harsh. But if you lack the self confidence and communication skills to talk to people. Anything less than clear and honest communications will not end well. I married someone that hide all there problems. Refused to talk about them. I saw how that works out. I think that these ideas help them mingle with their fellow beings in case if they have some difficulty in facing all those. I feel that this can create a wide range of self improvement within all those who are shy in facing the outside world.
I have used cm two times, with me being a stay at home mom I was really hoping this site could be free since there is other dating sites out there that is free but there is just a lot of weirdos on those sites. This website sucks, right on the first page, man seeking man, there is not this option on the website, clearly ignorance have take these peoples mind. IF your only method of communication is on phone, they keep giving excuses about meeting, if they meet you..
People are looking for desperate, lonely, low self -esteem people to prey on.. This does not mean for a person to go down the line and give every detail about their body parts, lifestyle.. A friend of mines, met a guy who was paralyzed from the chest down, he was using a pencil to dial with his mouth, or having someone to dial it for him. Pictures show lbs, you show up weighing , how you bloat up that quick? But, God knows your heart, a man has needs.. You looking like Humpty, but frowning up when Jennifer Holiday shows up.
Although you work out daily, times a week, maybe your natural physical fit, that's not enough or the key to a relationship…. You have to be the deciding factor, if you want to bring these issues into your circle.
I have found that christian mingle is no better then plenty of fish, unfortunately. Most of the men just want cyber sex or free sex or are scammers from other countries. All around the world, the dating sites are all the same, just like when you meet people on the streets, event, i. A lot of times, our Red Flags are already there, but we will ignore them, because we want to be attached to a relationship…..
I know how to rake through they guys and get rid of sleezy ones. My account was not supposed to renew. I signed up for a one month trial to check the site out and to compare it with eHarmony and Match. The site is no better than the ones listed and in some cases its much worse. I thought eHarmony was bad but this site is the worst of all.
What kind of bullshit is this? They take your money but cant return it? Is this site run by the government and Obama? Cant refund my money huh! Well this posting will go on every review site I can find for ChristianMingle. So, I chatted with several guys, and finally landed on one.
His name was John, he lived within an hour of me, and we had had similar upbringing. We set a time to meet, and it just happened…we were married in August, Eharmony, Match and Christian Mingle. Eharmony I regret spending a penny on honestly. I try to fill out that huge Questionnaire, only to get matched up with a small list of people who I had nothing in common with. To many hoops to jump through, to restrictive and to costly.
A whole list of options, but for the hundreds of women that had a Christian denomination in their profile, almost none of them had anything to reflect that in their profile. Trying to find a solid Christian girl on this site, from Canada, felt impossible. Its the best of a bad system. Trying to guess people by their profile, and a couple pictures, is not an effective way of doing things, but honestly I rather be able to accept or reject choices based of my own criteria than someone else.
Its a little bit better starting point at least for me. We were both on it for about a year and I met several great ladies with whom I am still friends with, we just did not have romantic chemistry. I had dozens of great dates and found CM easy to use. I never used the prayer wall or chat rooms so I cannot comment on them. No one has pictures. All matches sent me had no pictures. They will not refund money. The few people I did talk with only wanted sex……. Wouldnt recommend to anyone.
I thought it was a horrible site. It should be free since the number of members is very small. ChristianMingle may be a Christian based website. A lot of the people that I ran into, not so much. A true Christian welcomes a comnversation when someone is talking about GOD in a great way. Not very Christian of them at all. What amazes me about Christian Mingle is how few Christian like woman there are on the site. I guess most of them feel if they go to church and say some prays they can act any way they want as long as it serves their purpose.
I have had many woman on this site initiate contact with me and then, for no reason just shut me off. I guess some people would call that up grading. I call that just being down right rude. I tried to be honest with them about the situation, and be as delicate about it as possible. I guess my definition of being a Christian is different than theirs. Hey Sam, I had the same problems that you faced.
It is so frustrating. Really sorry to hear that.